Boys *sigh
TEAAAAAA I’ve missed you guys. I’ve been writing and rewriting this for the longest time but you know what I just need to bite the bullet and get it out there. Today we are talking about… drumroll please… boys! I was going to try to make the title of this blog post sound super smart and intellectual and you’d be like, damn ya she’s getting her degree in psychology, but when I first started drafting this I saved it as “Boys *sigh” and every time I came to add something it gave me a good little laugh so I decided to leave it. I hope you guys appreciate it. Because, honestly, sometimes that’s all that can be said. Boys *sigh. You know?
Do you remember the first time you became conscious of like “holy shit I wonder what that boy thinks of me” growing up? Because I do. I was in the fourth grade. Prior to this moment, I lived in a little kid fantasy world and those were just the boys in my class who I had always gone to school with. Then, all of a sudden, it’s like a flip switched and I could only see things through the lens of “what does he think about me?” And I haven’t known peace since! That was a joke… kinda. But, I know for a fact that people share this experience or something along those lines. Growing up is embarrassing and fucked up and overall just a shitshow. So then when you throw into the mix like “hey BTW you also need to be super hot and cool and appeal to the boys around you” it’s damn near impossible. The standards we as girls feel like we need to meet in our daily lives, but especially growing up, are so fucking high and unattainable yet we continuously beat ourselves down for not reaching them. I think we all need to cut ourselves some slack.
Next, I wanna talk about male validation. I could probably go on for days and days but I’ll spare you and get right into it. First of all, I think we can all mutually agree that the desire for male validation as a girl fucking sucks! But, at the same time, let’s not pretend like it doesn’t feel so good in the moment. For me personally, as someone who has struggled with being happy with their physical appearance, as do most girls, unfortunately, this is really where male validation comes into play. It’s vulnerable and embarrassing to admit but for a long time, I only felt happy with how I looked when a guy was reaffirming it for me. I would say I’ve grown a lot since then and thank god now I’m not dependent on boys to make me feel like I look good, although I won’t lie it still happens every now and then. But what really gets me is when I put it in the perspective of if I was giving advice to one of my girlfriends about it. Think about if one of your friends were shitting all over themselves and only feeling confident when a guy who, let’s be honest, is probably subpar to begin with, is giving them attention and making them feel valued. When you think about it like that it’s obvious. I would say you need to get your head screwed on right because you’re gorgeous, smart, funny, and one of a kind so why the fuck would you let a boy, who probably doesn’t have more than two thoughts a day, be the one to decide if you feel like that or not. You would never put up with a guy making your friend feel like that, so why do you? Take your own damn advice for a change. Trust me.
I fear that this may be coming off as that I’m like an angry bitch wronged by men. I swear that’s not how I’m trying to seem, but this is shit that girls need to hear and I’m damn sure gonna make sure I get my point across. Ok, so, to summarize, 1) Your value is not determined by the guy you’re hooking up with or talking to or whatever the fuck 2) You don’t need to be some different version of yourself for ANY guy 3) Boys are really stupid a lot of the time 4) You’re probably out of his league anyway ❤️
That’s all. Talk to you soon. Love you!
